The passive acceptance of rape jokes

In case you still had hope that Frat guys are super nice there is this, from Think Progress:

The University of Vermont chapter of fraternity Sigma Phi Epsilon is being suspended for passing out a survey to its members that asked questions including, “If I could rape someone, who would it be?”

Classy, right? But they just got caught. People, and especially men, are pretty comfortable making rape jokes or laughing at them. What message does this send? That rape is a joke. And since it is a joke, it doesn't have to be taken seriously. So, go rape someone. Society passively condones it. Is anyone thinking about these implications? Does it ever occur to people that you are quite possibly sitting in the room with someone who was raped? Probably not.

Then there is this:

From the Pennsylvania Liquor Control Board, comes this ad that was quickly scrapped, because, you know, it made people mad. I understand that there is a lot of data that indicates that alcohol is often a factor in cases of rape. But this is shameless victim blaming. Where is the man in this? Where is his responsibility to, you know, not rape people? Everyone has a right to get drunk and not get raped. If you wanted to convey the message that women should be careful, you can do it without also saying you are to blame if you were drunk and got raped. I mean, show a stumbling drunk girl between two soberer girlfriends with the caption "Buddy System: Get Home Safe." Boom. Message conveyed.

Rape isn't a joke. It isn't about teaching women how not to get raped. It is about teaching men not to rape and society not to be complicit. We aren't even there yet.

This is what I think when people say stupid things about rape:

Fuck you too.